Not always can we keep a relationship, no matter how hard we try. Most times you or the other party lose those feelings you had in the beginning or later realize this is not what you or the other person wants. There are many other reasons for breakups however, no matter what the reason, all break up feels the same.
Going through a break up gives the worst feelings of all time. The feeling of loss and separation can be so distressing it disrupts your daily life. Everything seems dull and depressing and all you can think of is the loss of all those shared dreams and plans for the future. However, even though it’s hard to recover from this stressful event, you need to remember as unfortunate as it is, things happen but you CAN get through this and you WILL be able to move on.
1. First, one need to accept that fact that it wasn’t meant to be. You can’t force someone to stay if they don’t want to, or you can’t continue holding on to something that you know won’t last.
2. After realizing this, understand it’s okay and normal to miss that person, and think of them even though you don’t want to. You may feel sad, angry, frustrated, anxious, confused, etc. These are all normal reactions so don’t fight your feelings they will eventually lessen over time.
3. Keep your space. Even if the feelings are mutual and you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. No phone calls, no texting, Facebook, etc. Keeping contact will only make you miss each other more and wanting to get back together.
4. Do not go MIA. Don’t try to get it over alone. It usually makes it worst because at this time you might have only one way of thinking, usually negative, causing raised stress levels and depression.
5. Surround yourself with friends and family as much as possible. Doing things together will take your mind off the situation.
6. Talk about the way you feel. Even though it may be difficult, its important to let it out. Find someone you feel comfortable with. Being around supportive family and friends will help you feel good about yourself and help you let out all those bottle up negative feelings. Also knowing that others are aware of your feelings will make you feel less alone and help you heal.
7. Stay busy. Keeping yourself busy keeps your mind occupied and less concentrated on the matter. Take up a hobby, join the gym, improve your eating habits.
8. DO NOT turn to drugs or alcohol. These are only temporary escapes and does nothing for your healing process but keep you at that stage and is usually destructive for your health in the long run.
9. Remind yourself you still have a future and everything happens for the best. Do not get into any relationship with another person right after. This is not what you need at the moment neither is it fair to that person.
10. Everything takes time. Give yourself plenty of healing time. Each person heal at their own rate, so be patient with yourself, you will be okay.
At the moment none of these might seem to help but give them a try, stay positive, accept it is over and overtime you will heal.